"Laura" emailed me a question about piercing my nose. I love that she is thouroughly thinking the decision through. I'm a little more of a "eh, let's do this!" without thinking kind of girl. She asked some great questions, so I thought I'd share them with you.
Was reading another blog and came across your comment, "...I'm 45, quit my teaching job, pierced my nose and I paint with our oldest daughter who has Down Syndrome." Hope you don't mind writing you. I found your blog, and love your dedication to family and homeschooling!
As I read your blog, I noticed you have a pierced nose and I just keep dreaming about one. You're one step ahead having gone ahead and done yours. Wherever I see your face and your nose stud, its just perfect in your nose and makes your face truly light up. Admit to a little envy. I love it.
For me, getting my nose pierced has been on my bucket list since college and now is # 1 as one of those " Things to do before 40. Also, I'm preoccupied with getting a nose piercing:) Am I crazy?
I've put having my nose on the back burner since college (FUNNY STORY AVAILABLE UPON REQUEST). I've always thought of as a tiny bit of self-expression, a smidgen of rebellion, and a sprinkle of hope that I’ll ...have a bit of freedom and independence that I so crave. Recently, I've had this dream with a sparkly stud in my nose. Unfortunately, when I woke up, it wasn't there! I've been trying to get up the nerve to do it. Have to admit that seeing your pretty face, and cute, small nose stud has provided a sense of inspiration and realism to my quest. Am not sure what has spurned my dream nor strong desire to have it done.
I don't know if you had this problem., but I keep obsessing about getting a nose piercing and keep promising myself to just get it done. However, I keep searching for reasons that an almost 40 something woman should get her nose pierced facing this dilemma, but still wanting to feel sexy and attractive to my husband. I've always really liked the idea of a small nose stud, but I never did it because I'm was afraid what others might think..
Wonder if maybe I'm a bit too old to just be getting my nose pierced. I'm 39. I know people my age who have them, but they've had them quite a while. I kept going through the tough question, "...am I too old?" Would this look like a mid-life crisis thing [?] I keep seeing others in their late 40's, 50's and even one women with all grey hair, cut short who must have been 60+.
Am searching for some advice when you had your nose pierced. I suspect you faced all these questions, so I hope you won't mind me asking:
What was the " tipping point " that made you finally go ahead and do it unlike me constantly obsessing about it?
Was there an event or person who influenced you to go ahead and have it done or " I had it done because____"
Well Laura, there is a story behind the nose piercing. There are a couple of reasons I did it, but have not shared much here.
A few years ago I quit teaching public school. It was an easy decision for me because after five years of struggling to conform and fit in, it was apparent that my way of thinking and teaching was never going to fit the mainstream school system. I believe that instead of taking a child and identifying his/her deficits, we should identify their strengths and build on that. Public schools like to figure out what you suck at and then jam it down your throat until you not only suck at something, but you despise it as well. I saw it first hand with my own children, and then from the inside as a teacher. When I finally quit and pulled our youngest out to homeschool it felt liberating, and also like I'd survived a near death experience. Trying to fit in and changing who I was took a toll on me. A few years of therapy and the freedom to be creative and teach the way I knew it needed to be done fixed that.
During the time that I was teaching our youngest daughter was going through some problems of her own. I'm not going to go completely into what her issues were here, because it's her story to tell, but I will say that it was a very scary couple of years for us and I was so worried we were going to lose her. While she was in therapy the therapist suggested that we do some mom/daughter bonding activities. Anne suggested piercings. I was thinking pedicures.
At the piercing studio I kept looking at all the pictures of piercings and tried to imagine what would be "appropriate" for a forty something woman. Whose to say what that is exactly, but I had always admired nose piercings and thought that if I just put a teensy stud in then it would be hardly noticeable. Anne held my hand as the piercer marked and pierced my nose. It hurt, but not in a pass out from the pain kind of way. Afterwards it felt like something was in my nose, but now I forget that the screw stud is even there.
Why did I do it? Well, for a few reasons.
1. Because I could. I was no longer expected to look a certain way for anyone other than myself.
2. It was a cool bonding experience with my daughter. I held her hand, she held mine- and it's cool that we got to experience that together. It was one of the first steps to mending our relationship.
3. I felt that it was an expression of my artistic/non-conformist side. I don't fit the mold and I am very okay with that.
4. If not now, when? So what if I'm in my 40's? It's my nose and I may rock this piercing right into my 70's.
Did it hurt and how long have you had your nose pierced?
Yep, it hurt, but only for a little bit. It felt like a shot really, and then nothing.
Did you have it done with a needle or one of those newer piercing instrument that looks like a gun? Your placement is perfect on your nose.
The pierced used a needle. He marked it and had a good eye for placement. Go to someone reputable whose work you have seen firsthand.
How did you decide left or right?
How did you find a piercer?
Did they numb your nose?
How did you chose the size of your nose stud (yours looks great)?
Was your husband supportive of your decision?
Was it worth it?
Would you do it again?
How did friends and family handle it? Were they supportive?
My 87 year old dad told me it was a phase and I'd outgrow it. No one else really commented on it. I didn't make a big deal out of it so they didn't either.
How did you feel and are you still happy with the decision?
Ever thought of wearing a nose ring vs. stud?
Seeing how cute your look with your nose pierced, have you inspired other women to get their noses pierced too?
Am I crazy at almost 40 wanting my nose pierced?
Tricia, You seem to have mastered the difficulties and suspect your are still loving your nose stud. Am really wanting of a nose ring, but will settle for a teeny, tiny, diamond stud to feel special and pretty and feminine.
Thanks in advance for any help.
I hope that answered your questions, and I really hope you just jump in and do it! How we dress, wear our hair, the jewelry we choose- all of that is an expression of who we are. Be true to YOU and don't worry about what the rest of the flock are doing. Chances are they are all looking at you wishing they could be a little more expressive ;)